Thanks
to political, economic and technological changes over the past several
years, our world has become a much smaller place. The great wall"
of ignorance that once separated the East and West, that for all intents
and purposes once kept China as far from the United States as the
Earth is to Mars, is a thing of the past. It is no longer rare to
find Westerners working, studying, and traveling throughout all parts
of China; and in the United States and in other Western nations, millions
of Chinese students, workers and business men and women interact on
a daily basis with Westerners from all walks of life.
These are exciting times, but they are not without their challenges.
As China begins the process of entering the World Trade Organization,
opportunities in the West for Chinese businesses and individuals
will begin to increase at break-neck speed, and knowing the rules
that shape the Western business world-the rules of etiquette that
define for us the manners and protocol necessary to conduct ourselves
properly amongst business people of all kinds and in all situations-will
become essential. Lighting up a cigarette during desert, giving
flowers to your bosses' wife as a gift, or not giving her a gift
at all, tipping the waitress at a business lunch-these are all small
gestures that could make the difference between success and failure
in your business deal, between securing the job you've always dreamed
about or taking an entry-level position out of desperation, or between
being able to travel the world with a company expense account, or
remaining in your province working at an hourly wage.
In Western business, no gesture is insignificant. Emily Post, the
mother of etiquette for Westerners, believed that etiquette is made
up of a series of "trivialities," of small gestures, that
one can always learn, and that conducting oneself properly according
to the situation becomes "the outward manifestation of one's
innate character and attitude toward life." Far from simply
following a set of rules to learn, and unlearn, as needed, respecting
the rules of etiquette is, essentially, a way to show the world
who you are.
This book is an introduction to the basic rules of etiquette for
Chinese citizens hoping to enter into the world of Western business,
especially into the world of American business. While the West in
general, and especially the United States, has long been known for
its relaxed attitudes toward social customs and traditions, the
business world continues to move forward with standards that govern
human interaction and general customs at almost every level. Whereas
the rules that define Western social etiquette was based primarily
on aristocratic customs and practices, and as such, the rules, like
the aristocracy, have changed dramatically over time, the rules
governing business etiquette were built largely on codes of military
standards, and the changes over time have been much rarer. Knowing
those codes will help you gain the respect necessary amongst your
Western colleagues, and you will be better prepared to succeed in
whatever your business endeavor is. Whether you are negotiating
a joint venture with a United States Internet company, trying to
secure a position with an international investment firm, or even
if you are simply trying to get a foot in the door in a University
research facility, reading this book will give you the tools of
etiquette necessary for success.
In Part One, we will discuss the general points of etiquette which
will help you with whatever endeavor you hope to involve yourself.
You will learn the basic rules of dressing, greeting, gift giving,
and eating. Although we use business examples to explain the various
rules of etiquette you should learn, this section is general enough
to be useful to any Chinese citizen who desires to learn how to
communicate formally with Westerners, both in and outside of business
environments, and both inside and outside of China
In Part Two, we turn to two specific and extremely important business
situations: the job interview and the business meeting.
Success in the business world is, of course, dependant on much more
than how you conduct yourself with your colleagues. You must have
skills or a product that the world wants in order to succeed; but
in a world as small as ours, with so many people and so many businesses
competing for the same jobs and the same share of the marketplace,
the "trivialities," the small gestures, that you learn
in these few pages may make all the difference in the universe to
you."